Broken Bonds – Why Do Friendships End in High School?

Broken Bonds - Why Do Friendships End in High School?

Denise Mercado, Yearbook Editor

According to Cornerstone University and other multiple sources, it states that about less than 10 percent of high school bonds end up being long term after graduation. Creating ties in high school help build an individual’s aspect of what it takes to be a genuine friend and how to tell one apart from a group. In view of the fact that friendships between teens are, time and time again, filled with limitless stories and gossip, what is there to say about high school associations? Will they last throughout the end of time?


To the people that were born after the year 2000, also known as the children of Generation Z, it is common to grow up with the expectation of having the perfect life like getting married at a young age in the early 20s, keeping in touch with friends and family after graduating high school, or even graduating from the same college and turn into lifelong pals. It is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of, especially after watching movies like Camp Rock or High School Musical.


The moment freshmen enter the doors of high school, some become aware that the people they consider as “best friends” could possibly change at any point in time and end up being on the list of people not worth hanging out with or keeping in life forever. When it comes to ex-friends, there will always be a lesson or more that comes with the painful experience; a portion of that understanding will not be made clear until after you graduate from high school.


Senior Gavin Thomas said, “Friendships are easy to maintain as long as all parties put in effort to keep it going. The main I see friendships fall apart is because one person stops putting in that effort and all of that hard work goes down the drain. I have been there more times than not, and it is never a good feeling. Friendships are not something to throw away and be forgotten, yet people seem to do that more and more lately and it is sad to see.”


As time passes, the number of people that used to play the most important role in one’s life will slowly decrease until only a handful are left. Individuals set on different passions and part ways. Most young adults have not reflected on the one question that matters most in their age range and that is: “Will this be important in five years?”


Senior Alexandria “Lexi” Brimmer said, “One pro of losing friends is being able to focus on myself and what I am doing in my life whether it be work, family, or school. Some cons are that I am not able to go out and do something like friends would do, like movies or a girls’ night. It can get kind of lonely as well.”


High school is a small piece of life, but has the largest effect on who is one destined to be and where will they go. Relationships and friendships create a person, whether good or bad. And throughout them, knowledge is brought and lessons are learned.